Happiness

Ive recently been reading a book about happiness. What is happiness, that is such a weird word and invention of our society. What is it really? And can we ever relish that slippery piece of puddy when we have it between our fingers. One of the ways to improve happiness the author suggests, writing down 3 characteristics of happy people. Once you write them down those are the things you need to fix in your life in order to be more happy in YOUR life. Its an individual thing and there is no wrong or right answer.Here are mine.
Happy People:
1. worry less
2. help others
3. are satisfied
4. feel like they make a difference

Being Happy Alone

Something that came across my emails today, why is it so hard for us to learn how to be happy alone? When I say alone, I mean without a man, GASP, grandmothers around the world are shielding their face at the horror. Before we are in any serious relationship, we need to know that we can handle being alone. Handle not having anyone to call to whine and complain about your day, no one to tell that you are feeling happy today, no one to call and set up a friday night with, no one to confer with on "what are we doing tonight." There is no "we," only "I," and we need to realize that its okay and that in fact its GREAT. Being alone and dating lots of boys makes you realize what you do and dont want in a person and that you are not willing to settle for anything less than that. Im not saying there is one perfect guy out there, get real there is not, men are men and they will leave their dirty socks everywhere, they will throw down their crap and not pick it up, they will leave the cabinet doors open (okay maybe thats just mine, but it drives me nuts). It just means can we live with those flaws, and its okay we all have ours too.

When you are alone and okay with it, then thats the time. If you question things about your current relationsihp so much, thats a big sign. Its like a red flag, I mean you can question things here and there, but if you are constantly questioning your relationship. You need to realize why you are, are you bored, do you know deep down inside why, but wont admit it to yourself? When you meet someone and questions dont pop up thats a good sign, why should you be questioning their motives? Theres no reason to if you trust them and yoursef.

My title

No this blog is not that book, eat, pray, love. Although we are all looking at achieving some type of spiritual level, whether it be just going to church every once in a while (thats me I hate to admit it, weddings and sadly funerals are the only times I attend) (ps god please dont punish me, I promise I'll start going soon) anyhow, im not going to ever go to India at meet the dali lama. Some yoga or even pilates every once in a while, is about as far as I get to zen meditation. Maybe I should buy one of those little rock gardens. The things we do to make ourselves feel better about our spirituality, its ridiculous, like raking some sand from a mini buddha kit is going to make me feel better. Some wine or beer could have that same effect !!

Intro - Numero Uno Post

So this is my first post. I am now officially part of the new age of blogging. I never thought I would do it or care enough to post things about my life and my thoughts, but I've realized that it will probably be good for people to read who are going through similar things in their life and have similar interest. To describe what I am interested in a nutshell. I love my husband, but I know what its like to be in the dating jungle and I see what my friends go through all the time and what I am going through right now as a newly wed. Married life isnt that much different from dating life but its different. I don’t have kids yet so I still get to go out and have a good time with my friends and husband. I see my friends who are and who are not in relationships and I see various slices of life that always make me think! I love working out and eating right, I know that sounds cliché, but I am always reading the latest information about nutrition and I like to understand how it affects the body and mind, so insights will always be in that arena.

Diets, Ive been on them all, ask me about anyone and I have probably been on one at some point in my life. Ive been anorexic, bulimic, gosh that’s so boring and im done with that self obssessing and self loathing that comes with that. It's so passe, we must move on and get over that crap but don’t get me wrong I want a perfect body im just not willing or interested in self torture anymore. Is it possible to have a perfect body? I highly doubt it, but what the hell I can try to get close. I must sound like a narrow minded nit wit, but Im not trust me. I see what my friends and women deal with and how they see their bodies, the grass is always greener on the other side, that’s all I can say about that.


Nutrition, I love learning and understanding how the body processes and handles food and why our bodies do what they do. I know im weird!!